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Anonymous was like: I want to get away from all my 'friends' because they always fall out with me, and add so much extra stress into my life. I suffer from terrible anxiety anyway, and I'm not getting any help for it. I self harm too. I'm so pathetic, I cry at EVERYTHING. My friend is suicidal and also adds stress in my life. I know I have to be her friend but it's so hard, I feel as if she hates me because she's bipolar. She's the one with the medical issues, but what about me? Everyone's forgot about me. xxxxleave them and get a new group of friends who will treat you the way you should be treated. you deserve a nice set of friends who will make your life enjoyable and not stress you out or make you feel down. you could tell them how you feel about them.. but then that could lead to it becoming awkward and they may get bitchy.
why don’t you get help with your anxiety and self harming? go to a doctor and get help because you don’t need to fight it alone, there is help available. maybe talk to a family member. or why don’t you write down all your thoughts and what is bothering you so then you are able to express your feelings and clear your head. no, you are not pathetic. you are just emotional and may have a lot building up inside so that’s why you cry - it’s nothing to feel bad or ashamed of, it’s absolutely normal.
it’s nice you’re there for your friend, but there has to be a balance in the friendship. why don’t you tell her about how you’re feeling? maybe you could both help each other through it all. also, put yourself first and do what is best for you.
please be strong! chin up beautiful. you can come and speak to us any time :)
- Yasmin. xxxx
Anonymous was like: There's this guy that I sorta like, and I want him as a friend, but he is kind of "hard-to-get" plus his friends gave him a bit bad image on me. My reputation is a little bit ruined because of them- I'm an issue in their class. Besides that, his best friend.. I am in love with his best friend, but I like him. I like him as a crush, though I want him as a friend. He's a little snob, and weird. In my point of view, he's choosy in friends, so, I don't know what kind of approach I should do. Help meshow him what you are really like so he isn’t just going off what his friends say. just talk to him and be yourself.
if they have ruined your reputation why do you want to involve yourself with them?
hmm liking two guys in the same group of friends? risky. all i could say is speak to them and get to know them properly as friends, but don’t lead two of them on at the same time. decide which one of them you are really interested in and which one you like best, and then take it from there.
why do you want to be friends with someone who is snobby and choosy in friends?
just take a friendly approach - like just start off as friends and get to know each other.
- Yasmin. x
fuckyeahmandarin was like: female/22 - i want to improve my life but i almost always end up beating myself up over past failures. i wish i could 'love my body' but with the pressure these days to be thin it is so easy to hate myself. i want to make lasting change but i know if i don't believe in myself, if i put myself down, i'm not going to work hard enough. any advice on how to look forward to change but not hate ur current self?don’t feel pressured because of society - just be yourself and try to be happy with yourself. everyone is different and unique, and everyone deserves to be their individual self because society would be boring if everyone looked and were the same. set yourself realistic goals and not too many; don’t make them too hard or impossible, just set goals that you will be able to complete and arn’t too difficult. they are your goals so you can change them or extend them so you shouldn’t be disappointed if you don’t complete them, just try again another time. you need to be dedicated and stick to your goals.
good luck!
- Yasmin. x
Anonymous was like: Heey, so im really shy around guys, Whenever ine of my friends talks to a guy or a group of guys i tend to be really quiet and just look down onto the ground. Ive never actually had a boyfriend or my first kiss (im 13) which really makes me feel like a looser, i want to have a boyfriend but im too scared of meeting new guys. What should i do???it’s completely normal! it really doesn’t matter that you havn’t had a boyfriend or had your first kiss - tbh it is better to be this way because your first kiss should be special and so should all relationships. as you get older you will realise that the girls who have all the boyfriends now will grow up to have all the horrible guys and players wanting them because they are considered ‘easy’ and a lot of guys have already had them. the girls who have had less boyfriends or had none are considered special and these kind of girls will get decent guys. you are NOT a loser at all, i promise! :)
its understandable to be shy because boys are like a different species.. well not literally but hopefully you know what i mean :) like you don’t know how to act or what to expect from them. just be yourself and build up a friendship first with them, don’t rush into anything. you don’t need to go looking for guys or make all the moves because i truly believe that everything falls into place and at the correct time it will happen.
it will be worth the wait! set your standards high and don’t just settle for any guy. don’t feel down about not having a boyfriend, they really are not important at your age. tbh relationships are much better when you are older and they are more meaningful. you shouldn’t be worried at your age! just enjoy life! you should only be worried about having a boyfriend and meeting a guy when you are ready to settle down and get married and have children and that only has to be in your late 20’s or 30’s. :)
i’m 17 btw, so i’m speaking from experience.
- Yasmin. x
Anonymous was like: There's a guy in my class that I like 4 about three months. So through his friends I told him that I liked him. He's very shy and 4 now he doesn't think about dating ne1.But he accepted to get 2 know me, though. Finally, I asked him if we could go out alone, without his friends. And then he told me he didn't want anything with ne1. He's a little geek 4 that stuff. So I think I 'scared' him. My friends say that I should talk with his friends and go out all together again. What should I do?yeah the best plan for now is to go out all together. carry on getting to know each other, but don’t pressure him or be too forceful, just let him be. maybe he doesn’t want a relationship because of something which happened in the past or he doesn’t want to get attached or trust issues or something - why don’t you try asking him?
-Yasmin. x
Anonymous was like: well basically, i need to tell someone. i don't know why but i've been getting alot of hate mail recently, like my ex & i had a massive argument, and he called me 'fat' and then a few randomers on ask etc calling me fat and ugly etc. so yeah. and my mum&dad are in a rough place and it's all so much for me to take, and the hate, makes me want to cut. i've tried once, but my sister managed (over phone) to calm me down. and i didn't but now i feel the need to, but i dont want to, and i just:( help?is the hate mail through anonymous? just simply turn anonymous off. don’t listen to these randomers, what they say is irrelevant!
why don’t you try speaking to your mum or dad and just say you are concerned about them and that its hard for you to handle? they may try comforting you and reassuring you - it’ll make you feel at ease and it’s one less thing for you to be so worked up about.
please don’t cut! ): resist the urges and really convince yourself that it isn’t worth it. why don’t you try doing something other than cutting? for example, listening to music or writing down how you feel or just basically doing something which will take your mind off everything - let your anger out by scrunching or ripping paper up or something like that? just please don’t harm yourself. how about when you feel like cutting just come to this blog and rant and let everything out.
- Yasmin. x
Anonymous was like: I think I'm in love with my best friend. What should I do? Should I tell him or no? If I should tell him, then how?just tell him straight - no games or anything, just come straight out with it telling him how you feel. there is no point hiding your feelings and always wishing there was something more between you both. you don’t want to be living with the regret so just go for it.
BUT.. you need to keep in mind that it could ruin your friendship.
good luck! :)
- Yasmin. x
Anonymous was like: i feel like im losing everyone, at school i have many "friends", but i don't have an actual friend. when i get home i am all alone literally, and there is just sort this whole in me, like missing someone. i don't really need advice, i just wanted to say that. get it off my chest.maybe you just need a close friend and someone you can speak to often. it’s understandable :)
+feel free to get everything off your chest; just let it all out and clear your mind - hopefully you will feel better.
- Yasmin. x
