no, don’t have sex with him. you first time should be special, with someone you are in a relationship with, someone you love and with someone who respects you. sex should be about love and sharing that special time with a special person. don’t let your sexual feelings get in the way. if it’s not what you fully want, then don’t go ahead with it. don’t feel pressured into it - it should be your choice and you should be in control of everything. don’t feel bad for saying no and not giving in, you are worth so much more than this.
- Yasmin, x
you basically just need to tell him it’s not acceptable and also tell him how it makes you feel. it’s unfair for him to not tell you why he is angry. instead of him just shutting off, he should talk to you about it and especially if you’re the reason for him being angry. he should discuss with you what the problem is. in a relationship everything should be talked about and problems should be sorted out. ask him how he’d feel if it was the other way around and you acted the way he does.
he might not want to discuss why he is angry because it could cause an argument and he won’t want that to happen, but he is not being fair on you and leaving you wondering what you did wrong, he should sort it out with you. just confront him and be completely honest, it’s the best thing to do (:
- Yasmin, x
leave them and get a new group of friends who will treat you the way you should be treated. you deserve a nice set of friends who will make your life enjoyable and not stress you out or make you feel down. you could tell them how you feel about them.. but then that could lead to it becoming awkward and they may get bitchy.
why don’t you get help with your anxiety and self harming? go to a doctor and get help because you don’t need to fight it alone, there is help available. maybe talk to a family member. or why don’t you write down all your thoughts and what is bothering you so then you are able to express your feelings and clear your head. no, you are not pathetic. you are just emotional and may have a lot building up inside so that’s why you cry - it’s nothing to feel bad or ashamed of, it’s absolutely normal.
it’s nice you’re there for your friend, but there has to be a balance in the friendship. why don’t you tell her about how you’re feeling? maybe you could both help each other through it all. also, put yourself first and do what is best for you.
please be strong! chin up beautiful. you can come and speak to us any time :)
- Yasmin. xxxx
show him what you are really like so he isn’t just going off what his friends say. just talk to him and be yourself.
if they have ruined your reputation why do you want to involve yourself with them?
hmm liking two guys in the same group of friends? risky. all i could say is speak to them and get to know them properly as friends, but don’t lead two of them on at the same time. decide which one of them you are really interested in and which one you like best, and then take it from there.
why do you want to be friends with someone who is snobby and choosy in friends?
just take a friendly approach - like just start off as friends and get to know each other.
- Yasmin. x
don’t feel pressured because of society - just be yourself and try to be happy with yourself. everyone is different and unique, and everyone deserves to be their individual self because society would be boring if everyone looked and were the same. set yourself realistic goals and not too many; don’t make them too hard or impossible, just set goals that you will be able to complete and arn’t too difficult. they are your goals so you can change them or extend them so you shouldn’t be disappointed if you don’t complete them, just try again another time. you need to be dedicated and stick to your goals.
- Yasmin. x
it’s completely normal! it really doesn’t matter that you havn’t had a boyfriend or had your first kiss - tbh it is better to be this way because your first kiss should be special and so should all relationships. as you get older you will realise that the girls who have all the boyfriends now will grow up to have all the horrible guys and players wanting them because they are considered ‘easy’ and a lot of guys have already had them. the girls who have had less boyfriends or had none are considered special and these kind of girls will get decent guys. you are NOT a loser at all, i promise! :)
its understandable to be shy because boys are like a different species.. well not literally but hopefully you know what i mean :) like you don’t know how to act or what to expect from them. just be yourself and build up a friendship first with them, don’t rush into anything. you don’t need to go looking for guys or make all the moves because i truly believe that everything falls into place and at the correct time it will happen.
it will be worth the wait! set your standards high and don’t just settle for any guy. don’t feel down about not having a boyfriend, they really are not important at your age. tbh relationships are much better when you are older and they are more meaningful. you shouldn’t be worried at your age! just enjoy life! you should only be worried about having a boyfriend and meeting a guy when you are ready to settle down and get married and have children and that only has to be in your late 20’s or 30’s. :)
i’m 17 btw, so i’m speaking from experience.
- Yasmin. x
yeah the best plan for now is to go out all together. carry on getting to know each other, but don’t pressure him or be too forceful, just let him be. maybe he doesn’t want a relationship because of something which happened in the past or he doesn’t want to get attached or trust issues or something - why don’t you try asking him?
is the hate mail through anonymous? just simply turn anonymous off. don’t listen to these randomers, what they say is irrelevant!
why don’t you try speaking to your mum or dad and just say you are concerned about them and that its hard for you to handle? they may try comforting you and reassuring you - it’ll make you feel at ease and it’s one less thing for you to be so worked up about.
please don’t cut! ): resist the urges and really convince yourself that it isn’t worth it. why don’t you try doing something other than cutting? for example, listening to music or writing down how you feel or just basically doing something which will take your mind off everything - let your anger out by scrunching or ripping paper up or something like that? just please don’t harm yourself. how about when you feel like cutting just come to this blog and rant and let everything out.
- Yasmin. x